IN THIS ARTICLE, ‘BAMIYO SHARES HIS MIND WITH THE LADIES OUT THERE WHO ARE STILL STRUGGLING TO IMPRESS A BAD RELATIONSHIP, STRESSING THEMSELVES TO MAKE IT WORK. HE ADVISES THE LADIES TO STOP TRYING TO IMPRESS A RELATIONSHIP WITH THE DEAD STATUS AND MOVE ON – WHEN IT STOPS BEING FUN, STOP.
I use to know this couple in the early years that marked the millennium. Lover birds they were, checking up was non-stop, they were never tired of kissing, cuddling was something they enjoyed every night, donning similar designs to grace occasions was the code, going to the beach most weekends was their way of being together and whenever one of the duo was away, the other felt lonely and bored.
Did you notice something in that paragraph? The good things they shared were all stated in the past tense and that’s because they are no more together. Something awful happened – the man looked sideways and love gradually faded away! He cheated on his wife with two other ladies, how sad. This relationship-gone-bad story happened almost thirteen years ago and today everything they shared is history.
Few months ago, the whole of twitter was filled with the Toke Makinwa gist but that’s just one out of the numerous relationship-gone-bad stories around us.
When a relationship goes bad, the first instinct of a lady is to try to fix things between her and her boyfriend, try to correct things before them or even try to spice things up with new tips and if it doesn’t work out after everything, she wets the pillow with tears recalling how much energy she put into the relationship and so she finds it hard to let go. A girl once asked me what to do in such situation and my answer was simple – stop, stop trying and let go, it’s clear it’s no longer fun!
The right time to stop trying in relationship-gone-bad stories is the moment it isn’t fun anymore. Bearing in mind that relationship-gone-bad stories didn’t just go bad in one day – all the fun in it didn’t just end same day, it started from a particular day you probably cannot recall.
The right answer is in the words of Tommy Shaw which says “When it stops being fun, stop.” It is that simple, yes it is.
The moment you realize you cannot spark up that initial fun that came with your relationship at the onset after many trials, don’t stay and weep on the bed, don’t go about like the loser. Just come step up to the fact and stop the whole thing before it drives you nuts.